Have you ever been somewhere, where someone did something awesome, which left its image ingrained in your head for what will likely be forever? This week, that happened to me. My original plan for today’s post was a total photo bomb from my night out at the Daughtry/3 Doors Down Concert. I was going to show everyone, the smiles and fun we were having, even in the bitter cold. The pictures of my friend and I letting go of our busy lives for a night, forgetting work and Mom duties for just a few hours, and let ourselves be silly and act like star struck teenagers. Those pictures we took? I will have forever, but the memory of what was likely an insignificant gesture to one man, likely meant the world to another.
Wednesday night after the show, my friend and I were pretty fortunate have the opportunity to meet the guys from Daughtry. (In case you haven’t heard, I kind of like them.) Each and every man in the band took the time to come out and chat with people hanging around. Not just sign autographs, but ask how the show was and thank their fans. They talked to people like they had known them for years. In the world of Rock and Roll, I would definitely say they hold themselves to a pretty high standard of class and humility.
Everyone had met with Robin Diaz, Brian Craddock, New Guy Andy Waldeck, and Elvio Fernandes (Heck, Elvio was locked in and tried to scaled a fence to chat with people!). It was taking a while for Josh Steely and Chris Daughtry to come outside. A little while later the fans were greeted by the bright smile of Josh. He quickly apologized for taking so long; he was having Face Time with his boys before they went to bed, who are back home in California. Clearly, no apologies needed. Josh made his rounds and made sure to give equal attention to everyone who stayed. (More on Mr. Daughtry another time :))
If you are familiar with the Detroit area, you will know, like in any big city, there is an abundance of homeless men and women. It is pretty common to see panhandlers in the streets, asking for any spare change you may have, telling their story, as to why they need money, and what they are going to do with it. It is also not uncommon for passers-by to ignore and even fear these people. While the majority of us feel sorry for these human beings, we are often still not prone to even acknowledge their existence. We have explained to our children, what being homeless means, and even stop on occasion to give a money to people on the side of the road, with ‘Will Work For Food” signs, because my son asks us to. He’s 7. However, I would say, the majority of time, I shuffle by these people in need, without even glancing their way, telling myself not to make eye contact. Sometimes, I will give some change I have, and then walk away quickly. I am not sure why, possibly habit?
As we were milling about, a homeless fellow made his way over to us. He explained to us that he wanted to get a room for the night, but only had fifty cents. No one paid much attention to him, and everyone was quick to say they had no change. Myself included. I am quite sure that this man had no clue who Josh Steely was, as he approached him. The homeless man explained his situation to Steely. Josh didn’t hesitate to grab his wallet. He talked to the man just like he was anyone else who was standing there, and listened to him. He listened. He handed the man an unknown denomination of money, (not just spare change), and continued his conversation. He urged the man to get a room for the night and get warm. He encouraged him to get something substantial to eat and then take a long hot bath. He introduced himself to the man and then hugged him, as if they were long-lost friends. This, to me was unbelievable. Josh could have easily handed this man a dollar and told him to be on his way. But, he didn’t. He gave the man time, and sincerely listened. He likely knew that this man was not approaching him because he is a celebrity; he probably presumed that the man really had no clue, nor did he care. During this exchange, I was so awe-struck and tempted to take pictures. I witnessed something truly incredible. I mulled it over and realized that the memory of this exchange left more of an impression in my mind, than a picture ever would have. The kindness and compassion that Steely showed was truly extraordinary.
Over the last couple weeks, I have been feeling rather ‘Grinchy’ about the Christmas Season. My focus has been solely on all that I have to do and buy (andI have3 been annoyed by it all). I have been consumed by how I am going to get everything done, and how busy the next month is going to be. I was irritated with the thought of even having to get a Christmas Tree. It was feeling like it was a mandatory routine that I am going through for my children, as opposed to feeling like these things were traditions that I enjoy. Last night I remembered, it is things like what Steely did that Christmas is supposed to be about. We often get so lost in the commerciality of the big event, that the spirit of what Christmas about is often lost. My faith in humanity and my Christmas spirit was most certainly restored, witnessing something as simple as someone taking time. It wasn’t all about money, it was about kindness.
I have a simple challenge for you this Holiday season. Put Religion and differences of opinion aside and be thoughtful. Listen to each other. Put your phones and computers away and just listen. You are probably missing something so important that someone, likely your child, is saying to you. Or, even if it’s not important to you, if someone is telling you something, it is important to them. Make a conscious decision to do something kind for someone this season, and beyond. Maybe you want to donate to a food bank, or buy clothing or toys for a family who is less fortunate. I don’t necessarily mean something that involves money, just do something. Volunteer your time to a cause. Open a door for someone. Make eye contact and smile at a stranger. When you ask someone how they are, listen for their reply. Just be generous in your actions. Look for the good in everyone, instead of judging them. Paying it forward shouldn’t only be reciprocal of someone doing something for you first. Take the lead. You may not think that something so small could have an enormous impact on someone else. Likely, you are inspiring someone else to be kind as well. Someone is always watching…especially our children.
Josh Steely – You are a good man.
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. ~Leo Buscaglia
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